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Paying off debts, start today. "Some debts are fun when you are acquiring, but none are fun when you set about retiring them" - Ogden Nash I remember when I took the first step to paying off my debts. I decided that I was too young to live a life full of debts. Month in and out I would just spend money anyhow. I had started working very young, no kids, no responsibility and staying on my own! I thought I lived my life to the fullest, now I know that it was a foolish way. I would open store accounts for clothes just to buy clothing for anyone, and to buy clothes that I didnot even need. Expensive too! I would eat out almost every day. I was living large-so to speak. "Living my life like its golden", I fooled myself. The problem started when I couldn't keep up. When I started taking unnecessary loans just so I  could buy pair of shoes. I  had to come to my senses. A friend of mine told me how she is paying off her debts, the "Snowball method&qu

MEDITATING... I started Max Meditation last year when my Goddesses and gods from Egypt came to visit South Africa. I had no experience didn't even know what to expect or how to act. Had been postponing this for years until I had no reason to.  I was going through some deep issues in my life, and this invitation came at the right time.  I finally decided that I needed something to free my thoughts.  I spent a lot of the time training my focus on breathing, body relaxation and thoughts. Great focus is needed as the feelings do not just stop wondering  but your aim is to focus, to feel, to listen.  I have learnt the benefits of Max Meditation. Its takes over your body, reduces stress and anxiety. Increases mental clarity and focus. Deals with emotional, intelligence and triggers the brain relaxation.  New Moons Max Meditation are the best!

She is vibrant. She is ambitious. She is content. She is delighted. She is elated. She is beautiful. She is her own Queen. She is her own happiness. She makes things happen. She looked within herself and she found the GOLD WITHIN HER HEART. BECAUSE SHE REFUSED TO BE - depressed, disappointed, disturbed, melancholy, sorrowful, morosed, troubled, unfortunate, discouraged, pained, unfriendly, upset, forsaken. She looked within herself and she found the GOLD WITHIN HER LIFE.

My dream engagement ring… While cuddling last night with my partner, we had an amazing conversation about “engagement rings”. Till recently, I have always said, that I don’t have a specific ring I would really love for our engagement and wedding.   I mean, I knew I wanted a diamond, silver, not a big stone. You know the usual for a simply girl. I am not a jewelry person, and wearing a heavy stone on my finger for the rest of my life, its not my me. The more I thought about this ring business, I thought hard. I mean, something that one will wear everyday should have a meaning, right? It should have memories behind it,  and a  meaning for the couple. I started thinking about our journey as a couple. We have been together for so long, loving, hating and loving each other all over again. My partner would say that “we have literally loved each other through thick and thin” , and I agree. Our love does not die, but grows. Just like any other couples no diamond is perfec

BE KIND TO YOURSELF I have been told numerous times, by various people that I am a kind person. I always go all out to make people happy, do the right thing, say the things they would rather hear as often as possible.  The more I grow up, the more I become more experienced. I have learned that people do change, they tend to take your kindness and misuse it and misuse you. People don't always acknowledge or appreciate a good heart. Can people stop associating being a good person with how much you are willing to suffer in silence for other people?  You can be a kind person and still say "no, i don't have the time and or energy to help you with that"  You can be a kind person and still say "this makes me uncomfortable, please stop" You can be a kind person and still say "I disagree and here is why" You can be a kind person and still say, " I am not okay with this". Sometimes you have to say no, but show them t

COVID19 is real. It has distracted our lives in such a short time. Adults understand what is happening. Children have no clue. My daughter keeps on asking "when are we going to see my friends?". Although I try to explain about the virus, she doesn't get it. Never have i thought this would be a life. I am grateful that my employment allows me to be home and work normally. But what about those whose lives are on stand still? Those people who are struggling because of  "no work-no pay" . Those people who are self-employed and had to close down their businesses?. People who have temporary jobs? How are they able to survive with their families?  How about those essential workers who are putting their lives at risks for the people? Then they are those ignorant ones, who are not compliant with the rules. Wondering around and living their lives as if everything is normal. Fellow people, what we are going though right now is not normal! Some go as far as to

LIVING YOUR BEST LIFE... When they say " Live your life to the fullest ", its doesn't mean that there won't be problems in your life, along the way. Yes, we all experience some bumps and bruises, fears and doubts all around and yet, we find a way to find peace to go day by day. The best thing to do is to not look at what is happening around you, but what is happening within you - find the gold within.  Change your thoughts, negativity, fears. If you feel that things keep on falling apart around you- redirect your thoughts, conversations, actions. Stop entertaining problems but allow possibilities to surface your mind. Remember you cannot change what other people think about you or do to you, But you can shift your position. Get away from negative people. People will keep on hurting you if you keep on understanding and giving them chances to. -you will remain with that abusive boyfriend  -you will go broke because they only come to you when they

Co-parenting... I believe Co-parenting for single parents is the best thing for your children. Our mother's might have done a great job raising us as single parents but that does not make it "okay" . I was raised by my loving mother, who would break her back just so i could have  best education, food, clothes and the finer things in life. My father's name was a taboo in the house. Till today I would not dare ask what happened between them. I didn't really mind him not being there, because i never knew him really. He was none existence in our life and we did just fine without him. I knew his family but lost interest when they didn't come forward to be with us or to check up on us. Funny thing was, when we met our father's friends and people who knew him they spoke highly of him. Appearantly, he was a "Blesser"! Travelled all over the world, spoke 12 languages, A very intelligent man. Pity, i didnt get to experience that with him. Nevertheles

IMAGINE... Imagine thinking that you are meeting someone  for the first time, and he tells you that you met numerous times, in various places in the past. He then describes what you wore and with whom you were with. Imagine a perfect guy, you've been longing to meet all your life finally shows up in your face, to tell you that he has been "with you" all along. Imagine a guy who treats you like Queen, says the right things, gives you the perfect kisses- foreheads, chicks, mouth, all over your body. Imagine a guy who is not afraid to tell you that he loves you over and over again. Through thick and thin. Even when haters try to destroy your relationship. Imagine a guy who cries tears because sometimes life can get too much and shit happens. Sometimes silly things gets in between your relationship and causes you to take a break to breathe, to meditate, to pray, to consult, to search within yourself so to find your Gold. Imagine finding the purpose of why you met i